Kim Costa's
ten Life Lessons

For those of you that have never had the chance to know my friend Barry Costa and through him his daughter Kim. I want to share a life-changing event with you. When I first met Barry some 18 years ago now, he shared with everyone Kim’s story and her life lessons.

I can testify to the power of her words and the life-changing power they had over me. She and Barry are WHY we do what we do. How this man who suffered the most horrific loss a father could have and still preserve and fight on with PURPOSE then who was I to whine about my trials and tribulations. I am a better man today because of them, I am nowhere near the man my Friend Barry Costa is but I get up every morning and try to be better. These are her life lessons. Find one each day and try to live it my friends.

John Olson – Superior Cleaning Solutions

The “Ten Life Lessons” was Kim’s valedictorian speech at ConVal Regional High School in 2000. Kim’s story can be found in the book “Inspiration to Perspiration”
Kimberly Joy Costa
(July 17, 1981 – July 24, 2000)

“Ten Life Lessons”

Life Lesson number 10 is “Deal with life one day at a time.” Sometimes when life gets crazy we feel like we’ll never sort everything out. But if we just deal with everything one day and instance at a time, life just has a way of working through things. It also makes life’s circumstances a little less overwhelming.

Life Lesson number 9 is more a word of advice. “Turn every life experience into a learning experience.” The best way I have found to cope with hard times more easily is to become knowledgeable about what is going on and try to find a meaning to everything that happens. Trust me, there is always one there.

Life Lesson number 8 is “Always look for the positive.” No matter how bad life can get, there is always a positive to be found. If you focus on the positive aspects of life, the hard times are easier to get through. The power of positive thinking is amazing, and it works.

Life Lesson number 7 is another piece of advice. “Try to do at least one new thing everyday.” Much to often, people get into a routine of doing the same thing everyday and their lives become boring. The new thing doesn’t have to be big. It can be something really small like taking a different route to work, or trying a new kind of food. Make a wish list for yourself of new stuff you want to try. Some things can be small and others, big. Plan on completing one of those things each day and by the end of everyday your life will be that much more full.

Life Lesson number 6 is “Be true to yourself.” No matter what happens in your life, if you are true to yourself and confident about who you are, you can overcome anything. Always stick to who you are and don’t worry if people are going to accept you or not. If you are confident with yourself, it will show and the people who really matter will accept you for who you are, not for why you are not.

Life Lesson number 5 is “Touch as many lives as you can.” Every time you meet someone new, you leave a little bit of yourself with them. They are affected by you. The more people you meet, the more complete both their and your lives are because of how you have been affected by each other. Think of the possibilities.

Life Lesson number 4 is “Enjoy the little things.” Although the big accomplishments in life are important, sometimes it’s the little things in life that are more enjoyable. The conversations with your best friend in the middle of the night, or a quiet moment somewhere peaceful where you were just able to think can add up to be much more important and memorable than any big thing.

Life Lesson number 3 is “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” Many times in life, people begin getting concerned with petty things. What people forget is that in the long run, it doesn’t matter what “he said” or what “she did.” It’s not worth your time to get worked up about anything small or petty.

Life Lesson number 2 is “Hold on to your friends.” No matter what happens in your life, good or bad, your friends will be there for you. Whether it is a pat on the back or a shoulder to cry on that you need, your friends are there for you always.

Life Lesson number 1 is “Make everyday count.” Life is short and we never know how long we are going to have. We must live life to the fullest EVERYDAY. Everything we do should have a greater purpose. We should never throw any opportunities away.
Our lives will continue to be impacted by our friendships, generosity, compassion and spirit. As each of us works each day to be the person we want to be, remember my favorite quote from the Broadway play “Rent” – “No Day But Today.”